Saisons de Polyamory: Married & Dating () - SensCritique
Polyamory: Married & Dating is an American reality television series on the American Polyamory Season 1 debuted on July 12, , Season 2 premiered on. July 20, by Emily Yoshida · Facebook · Twitter · Print. Polyamory: Married and Dating is a reality show on Showtime. I accidentally. A reality series explores non-monogamous, committed relationships involving more than two people. Tensions run high in Hollywood when Chris and Megan come face to face with Leigh Ann and her boyfriend. Lindsey, Anthony and Vanessa decide to formalize their triad relationship with a.
But a sunnier vision was aired this summer on the U. Showtime cable station's series Polyamory: Everyone except the two men in the "quad" is emotionally and sexually involved with everyone else, with graphic group-sex scenes included. The Showtime series marks a step toward the mainstream for polyamory — and a new spin to the debate over whether a family comprises exactly one man and one woman.
The show's creator and executive producer is Natalia Garcia from Montreal. In contrast to swinging, however, polyamory emphasizes transparency and emotional commitment to all romantic and sexual partners, and partners in a "poly" family may cohabit or raise children. The practice has been elaborated by a growing library of self-help books with titles such as Opening Up and The Ethical Slut and endorsed by public figures such as sex columnist Dan Savage and actress Tilda Swinton.
Story continues below advertisement Story continues below advertisement Last December, polyamory earned some legal recognition in Canada after a B. Supreme Court ruling granted that multiple conjugal unions between live-in partners are legal so long as there has been no marriage ceremony.
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Polyamory should not be confused with the patriarchal, polygamous marriages familiar from fundamentalist offshoots of Mormonism and their TV reflections, Big Love or Sister Wives and some other religious sects: In polyamory's most common form, both women and men are free to seek multiple relationships, and partnerships need not be cemented by marriage.
Elisabeth Sheff, a sociologist who runs Sheff Consulting Group in Atlanta, has studied polyamorous families extensively since the mids. She has found that women share sexual power more equally with men in polyamorous relationships than in polygamous ones — partly because women are generally more selective of sexual partners, and tend to find new ones more easily, which gives them leverage.
Earlier this year, an Internet survey of 1, polyamorists conducted by Melissa Mitchell at Simon Fraser University — the largest academic survey of polyamorists to date — found that majority of poly individuals 64 per cent have two partners, with 61 per cent of the women identifying their two closest partners as both men and 86 per cent of men identifying their two closest partners as both women.
The majority of the women in the sample identified as bisexual 68 per centwhile bisexual men are less frequent 39 per cent and exclusive homosexuals are rare 3. Story continues below advertisement The study found that on average, polyamorists spend more time with and feel more committed to their primary partners than their secondary partners, though they may find secondary partners better satisfy their sexual needs.
The average relationship length was nine years for closest partners and 2. The researchers note that because the survey is self-selected, it doesn't provide a representative sample, but Dr. Sheff says the SFU results line up with those of other studies, such as the 71 focus interviews she conducted with Midwestern and Californian polyamorists from to Sheff says that despite the pronounced importance of gender equality to polyamorists, it's not unusual for men to be drawn to it because they believe that it will lead to easy sex or sex with multiple women.
But philanderers and pickup artists have a difficult time meeting the emotional demands of a polyamorous lifestyle and are eventually turned off — or ostracized — by the community. Married and Dating makes it clear that the advantages of open relationships come at a price: While the members of the cast have a lot of sex, they spend much more time deconstructing their emotions and debating each other's rights and responsibilities.
Story continues below advertisement What seem like common marital hiccups — for example, when Jen Gold gets angry that her husband, Tahl Gruer, has invited his ex to a party — spawn deep, emotional arguments. Garcia, the producer, says she never wanted to give the impression that polyamorous families are perfect. Tim, a firefighter living in Toronto, says the constant relationship drama in the show seems close to what he has experienced in the two years since he and his partner, Lola, opened their relationship and became polyamorous.
They requested that their real names not be used. That sounds pretty fuckin' sneaky.
I have one fucking boundary, you guys. One boundary - Look, look-- - That I've been talking about since I've been living here, and you can't honor that? It's not-- It's not okay. This is so exciting. What else do we need to do to, uh, to get ready to talk to Kamala today? I probably need to paint my toenails. Today we have a meeting with Kamala. She's gonna help us with our totally private commitment ceremony.
I know that I don't want some of the traditional wedding crap. Like the part about, "I take you. Anthony is the greatest feminist I've ever known. He really holds women to the same standard that he holds men. I don't any of the gendered, you know, - helpmate, obeying crap - Yeah. Unless it's about obeying our collective will, you know? It's really important to us to have some palpable symbolic moments in our ceremony because we are just pioneers, uh, making it up almost as we go along. I mean, I-I think one of the natural things about expanding marriage is the idea of expanding love - Mm-hmm.
That could be the symbolism. You don't want to get tan lines, do you? That's-- that, you know, those are not what you want. Probably I-- Probably I should not.
That's not what you want, yeah. I like the way Lindsey thinks she needs an excuse - to get you naked. She just gave me a logical reason. And we're talking about this, like, really beautiful, exciting thing we want to do, and it just starts getting really sexy.
Polyamory: Married And Dating (2012) s01e07 Episode Script
Anthony's able to read our body language at this point. If neither of us are going for his cock, he knows-- That's not what this moment is about. That doesn't mean we don't want him involved. He's filling in the gaps. If I'm going down on her, then nobody's kissing her or kissing her breasts.
It's like a puzzle sometimes. Seems like you are, like, getting turned on - and climaxing easier lately. So it's not happening with other people? No, I mean, it is. I think my body's just-- just getting more excitable. I'm just excited about my life.
It's exciting times in our life. I think I'm just gonna go to my room. It's not like-- Why are you making this such-- Such a big deal? It's not a big fuckin' deal. Look, it was a mistake.
Polyamory: Married & Dating Soundtrack (2012) OST
I knew you were sleeping there-- So whatever. I didn't lie to her. Her asking you a question, and you just avoiding the answer is not-- is not telling the truth. I don't want to talk to you. You need to, like, admit to lying, Tahl, before I even continue this conversation. Every time I bring this fuckin' rule up, you know, I just get shit. She just shuts me down right away, and she doesn't want to hear it, and so it's not even up for discussion.
It's built up to this. There was a bit of dishonesty there. Why did you lie? I feel like you have all these fuckin' rules.
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Sneaking out and lying is not the fuckin' way to get what you want. That wasn't even my intention, but now that it's up, I have too many boundaries - and restrictions. Is that what it feels like?