Can I Date an Unbeliever? – From the Study
I never would have considered dating a non-Christian. Not in Yet the Bible records thousands of years of narrative to cover the ups and downs of relationships. Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, “He yearns. Marriage — and dating on that trajectory — cannot be the beautiful union God And if it is, I don't care if the person is a believer or an unbeliever, Christian or non-Christian. and you are going against what the Bible says and you are doing something wrong. Philippians How to Meditate on a Verse.
There are two primary New Testament texts that speak to the issue of marriage between a believer and an unbeliever.
The principle in this text is that where legitimate marriage can occur—the believer has never married or they are released from their previous marriage by the death of a spouse—it can only occur between two believers.
The second text that offers clarity on this issue is 2 Corinthians 6: But Paul is also interested in underscoring the folly of this kind of partnership.
With a blistering volley of rhetorical questions, the apostle undermines any hope that genuine intimacy—the kind of intimacy that married couples are intended to share—can exist between a believer and unbeliever. Paul asks, For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
What accord has Christ with Belial?
Dating Non Believers
Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols 2 Cor 6: The answer to each question is obvious. There can be, by definition, no partnership, fellowship, or portion between righteousness and lawlessness, light and darkness, Christ and Belial, a believer and unbeliever.
Of course, Paul does not mean that believers are to have no relationship whatsoever with unbelievers. For a Christian to enter into marriage with an unbeliever, therefore, is not only an act of disobedience against their Lord; it is also foolish. When a person becomes a Christian, they actually become a new person, and an ontological, irreversible change occurs at the deepest level of who they are 2 Cor 5: You have opposing Masters Matt 6: You are a Christian by sheer grace 1 Cor 4: Nevertheless, the fact remains that you are, at a basic level, different from each other and therefore unable to share true intimacy in marriage.
Furthermore, there are countless testimonies of men and women who have married unbelievers who say, after years of struggle, that it was an unwise decision. Why, then, would you ponder the possibility of dating an unbeliever? The question we often fail to ask is, Unique to what? Unique in the sense that things will turn out different? That cannot be guaranteed, nor is it, given the testimony of othersa probable outcome.
Unique in the sense that somehow you are exempt from obedience in this case? Any assumption that connects exemption from obedience to particular circumstances is usually a sign that you are in the throes of self-deception. Unique in the sense that no one has ever been faced with this kind of decision? No, this temptation, like all others, is one that is common to man 1 Cor The truth is that your situation is not unique at all.
If we break up, my boyfriend or girlfriend may never have another Christian influence in their life Let me be clear: A great God has made known to the king what shall be after this.
The dream is certain, and its interpretation sure. Do not desire his delicacies, for they are deceptive food. Do not toil to acquire wealth; be discerning enough to desist.
When your eyes light on it, it is gone, for suddenly it sprouts wings, flying like an eagle toward heaven. The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; you anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. And he gave orders to bring the book of memorable deeds, the chronicles, and they were read before the king. And it was found written how Mordecai had told about Bigthana and Teresh, two of the king's eunuchs, who guarded the threshold, and who had sought to lay hands on King Ahasuerus.
And the Israelites separated themselves from all foreigners and stood and confessed their sins and the iniquities of their fathers. And they stood up in their place and read from the Book of the Law of the Lord their God for a quarter of the day; for another quarter of it they made confession and worshiped the Lord their God.
Blessed be your glorious name, which is exalted above all blessing and praise.
King James Bible
Now then make confession to the Lord, the God of your fathers and do his will. Separate yourselves from the peoples of the land and from the foreign wives. For they have taken some of their daughters to be wives for themselves and for their sons, so that the holy race has mixed itself with the peoples of the lands.
And in this faithlessness the hand of the officials and chief men has been foremost. Then all who trembled at the words of the God of Israel, because of the faithlessness of the returned exiles, gathered around me while I sat appalled until the evening sacrifice. And at the evening sacrifice I rose from my fasting, with my garment and my cloak torn, and fell upon my knees and spread out my hands to the Lord my God, But thus shall you deal with them: The Lord was with Joseph, and he became a successful man, and he was in the house of his Egyptian master.
His master saw that the Lord was with him and that the Lord caused all that he did to succeed in his hands. So Joseph found favor in his sight and attended him, and he made him overseer of his house and put him in charge of all that he had. From the time that he made him overseer in his house and over all that he had the Lord blessed the Egyptian's house for Joseph's sake; the blessing of the Lord was on all that he had, in house and field.
She has become a dwelling place for demons, a haunt for every unclean spirit, a haunt for every unclean bird, a haunt for every unclean and detestable beast. For all nations have drunk the wine of the passion of her sexual immorality, and the kings of the earth have committed immorality with her, and the merchants of the earth have grown rich from the power of her luxurious living. And the beast that I saw was like a leopard; its feet were like a bear's, and its mouth was like a lion's mouth.
And to it the dragon gave his power and his throne and great authority. One of its heads seemed to have a mortal wound, but its mortal wound was healed, and the whole earth marveled as they followed the beast. I know you are enduring patiently and bearing up for my name's sake, and you have not grown weary.
But I have this against you, that you have abandoned the love you had at first. Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent, and do the works you did at first.
If not, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place, unless you repent. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.
And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her?
Does a lion roar in the forest, when he has no prey? Does a young lion cry out from his den, if he has taken nothing? I have not burdened you with offerings, or wearied you with frankincense. Whoever walks in uprightness fears the Lord, but he who is devious in his ways despises him. By the mouth of a fool comes a rod for his back, but the lips of the wise will preserve them. Where there are no oxen, the manger is clean, but abundant crops come by the strength of the ox.
A faithful witness does not lie, but a false witness breathes out lies. For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil, but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death; her steps follow the path to Sheol; Get wisdom; get insight; do not forget, and do not turn away from the words of my mouth. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. And when the king saw Queen Esther standing in the court, she won favor in his sight, and he held out to Esther the golden scepter that was in his hand.
Then Esther approached and touched the tip of the scepter. What is your request?
22 Helpful Bible Verses About Dating Non Believers
It shall be given you, even to the half of my kingdom. Now get her for me as my wife. At that time the Philistines ruled over Israel.