Confessions of Women Who've Been Divorced More Than Once | CafeMom
Feb 16, Often, the answer illuminates the divorced person's character and "issues," I have been married and divorced more than once -- twice, in fact percent of second marriages end so the odds were stacked against me anyway. Here are some of the pros and cons of dating a divorcee: had a relationship, a wedding and a shared home will have given them a chance to find out who they. Past statistics have shown that in the U.S. 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce. What are the reasons for.
Perhaps I fall for the "wrong" kind of men. Or, more likely, something must be very "wrong" with me. Maybe all of the above. Serial marriages aren't that uncommon, especially among celebs -- Elizabeth Taylor, Mickey Rooney, Larry King come to mind. But, we know that the rich and famous are not like us -- we expect all sorts of marital drama from them, and are more surprised by a marriage like the late Patrick Swayze's, who was together with wife Lisa Niemi for 34 years before he passed away.
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Still, even they're not exempt from raised eyebrows. I'm not perfect," was how he explained things. Poor Judith, however; her admission that Rudy was her third husband set the tabloids on fire.
That's why she waited until after he announced his intention to run for president to mention it. She feared judgment; she "failed" two marriages, after all -- what's wrong with her?
Which is why I find answering "So, why did you get divorced? People tend to blame divorces on the women, just as surely as they notice a messy or dirty home and fault the wife for her shoddy housekeeping. Aren't wives the ones who say "I want a divorce" two-thirds as many times as men?
Don't women have unrealistic expectations about marriage? Aren't unhappy wives who want a divorce selfish for putting their needs before their children's? And aren't all ex-wives psychos, gold-diggers, princesses and all-around b-words? All people who have been married and divorced a few times are suspect, but women perhaps a little more so -- just like women who sleep around are considered sluts or cougars while men who do are called, well, lucky.
I feel a lot like Rudy when it comes to explaining my first marriage.
Twice Divorced, Double Trouble?
For one woman who is married to husband number three, it was love at first sight when she struck up an intense conversation with her future husband on a plane flight seven years ago. But the former college professor and editor had a lot of convincing to do before the relationship progressed: She had been married twice before.
Now 44, she is happily married in New Jersey, "I was still emotionally reeling from divorce and he was mainly sympathetic. But on another level, he was nervous that I would take the marriage lightly. If I had already been through two divorces, he was questioning my loyalty to the marriage because of my past history.
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She was drawn to the stability of his career and his big Italian family. But after a year, they were divorced. I was young, and at some level I felt trapped," she said. By the time she was 33, Owens met husband No. He was a professor in her field -- comparative literature -- and it seemed they were a perfect match.
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But the relationship was emotional and stormy, and after two years, it ended in divorce. Disappointed in herself, afraid she would never have a family, she slipped into depression. I felt like my personal life was being exposed. Everyone loves a scandal and I was very aware that people would probably gossip about it.
However, there is also a strong probability that second marriages will end in separation or divorce 23 percent after five years and 39 percent after 10 years. Social scientists at the Minnesota-based National Council of Family Relations speculate that those who are more accepting of divorce are more apt to do it again. But in some cases, there are problems with substance abuse, mental health problems, poverty or family violence that predispose them to more unstable lives, no matter which marriage they were in.