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11 Signs He Isn’t Worth Your Time
I've heard people compromise in these situations and it worked out, but if you aren't flexible on your expectations and you know it, cut it off. Delaying this will only waste time for both of you. Do you fit in with his family and friends?
Every fight makes it harder and harder for him to permanently add you to his circle when there could potentially be constant drama in his life. Ideally you would expect him to choose you over everybody else, but if everybody else hates YOU, then it would appear that you are the problem. This won't encourage a proposal and is definitely an indicator that you may need to move along.
Is he trying to be the man you need? Let's be honest, we all have shortcomings and areas where we need to improve, BUT is he really putting in an effort to improve on the things that have come up short? A piggyback question to this initial question would be: Is he capable of being the man you need? If it doesn't seem to be within his power to be the man that makes you comfortable in the relationship, it's time to reconsider that wait.
Additionally, if it seems that he just doesn't want to put forth the effort to show you he wants to be the person you need in your life, it's not worth the wait. And work on not doing this: It doesn't work, trust me. Tons of anecdotal data on that one. It even sounds like he might have been trying the same thing on you. WTF is it with me?
31 Red Flags That A Guy Is Not Worth Your Time
I think this alone would make me run for cover. People up the ante that quick are a problem. Add the rest in, and yeeah. Something's off, and it's probably not worth finding out what. Just because the body's grooving on someone's chemical matchup doesn't mean there's anything rationally right about the system. Apparently Other Guy just isn't as exciting to your animal brain. That's my working theory. If you date him, you'd never have a dull moment, it would be like a great adventure, where you discover exciting and strange things about each other, even though you don't like it each other very much.
So yes, you should definitely date him if you want the "excitement" of having to defend your looks and outlook on life, while rushing about that the last minute based on what he needs or whats.
You don't want to be worshipped or put on a pedestal. Your other guy is awesome and boring the hell out of you with his awesomeness. Among other things, he will never be "okay" with the fact if it is the case that you have had "premarital sex", despite his contrary protestations, and will attempt to lord it over you as a fault that you should be grateful to him for "accepting.
If he's truly as religious as you claim, you should expect he will be trying to convert you. So-called "missionary dating", while not officially promoted or encouraged at any church anywhere, is a pretty common phenomenon in fundagelical circles. But it sounds like you could do yourself a huge favor by figuring out why on earth you'd want to be with someone who didn't accept you for who you are and who didn't find your look sexy and to die for.
I dated a really religious guy at one point who was always subtly judging my "look," until the point where he wouldn't take me to the grocery store in the middle of July if I were wearing shorts immodest, obviously. He was always saying I "didn't have to" wear makeup, which in judgy guy-language is usually shorthand for "please do what I want you to do with your face, instead of what you're comfortable with, because I am uncomfortable being seen with a shallow ungodly woman.
Your "look" doesn't even seem that extreme!
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You're attracted to him, but he doesn't want sex, so it looks like a fling is out of the question. Honestly curious, why do you think he was so into you at first? Did you really hit it off conversation-wise? Were you dressed differently than usual? Is he really really ready for marriage?
I kind of wonder what makes this guy tick. If this post was anonymous I would assume you are my good friend Megan. She is always into the guys who make the most demands of her to change the type of person she is and quickly rejects any guy, no matter how "right" whatever that means he seems, if he is accepting of her as she is. We have had hours upon hours of conversations about this.
The thing is that she, for various reasons, is not happy with herself and hopes that one of these guys will come along and demand changes in her that she will result in "New Megan" and the she will actually like this version of Megan. This has been going on for years and years. So I will suggest the same thing I tell her: Rude, narrow-minded and controlling.
There is a guy who is not only accepting of your alternative looks, random creativity, and general outlook on life but he's dying to meet you. He told his best friend tonight "Look, I'm just not going to settle for this blond tanned woman; she just doesn't do it for me. I need a woman with alternative looks and random creativity who's an atheist! Religion is great for someone but not for you, not that I can see.
Honestly, I don't think he's great but hey, there is someone out there who is exactly right for him, she's sitting home reading her bible, memorizing some verse or something.
Look to whatever is Next. And get irritable with you if you can't be squeezed back into his mold. He also sounds like he has this idealized vision of what he wants in a woman but as long as he doens't have that yet he will keep coming back to you, all the while dropping little negative comments about how you don't meet his idea. By the way if someone wants you to meet their parents after the first date then I think the vast majority of the time 1 of 2 things is going on.
The person just has a super casual relationship with their parents and their is nothing special about you meeting them. The person is not mature at all and is projecting their fantasy woman onto you without knowing you at all, and will act horribly when they really get to know you and find out you are actually your own human being and not the prepackaged image they were projecting.
That's more like taking two people and pressing them together really, really hard to see if they'll become one, and then recoiling in horror when guts and blood start coming out. Why do you even talk to each other? You were moody on the second date, he wanted you to meet his parents on the second date.
I always thought it was a bit pitiful to substitute "desperate for a shag" with "desperate to get married". Bad decisions could get made that way. You had to drive, he was worried about your Bettie Page look. But he could've just asked you.
Saying "you look funny, why're you wearing that? It's easy to cite this as evidence that he's a wrong guy, but I can also imagine him writing a similar post about your being moody on the second date and in front of his family and everyone here going "Aagh!
If she's moody on the second date she's probably an axe murderer! Demanding to know if you were seeing someone else?
Each of you is looking at the other in distaste and going "urgh Neither of you is wrong, you're just incompatible. There is nothing deeply fundamentally wrong with you here. It sounds like you just need to trust your instincts a bit more about what you do and don't like in relationships, and stop second-guessing yourself.
Take this other guy you mention: That's not a sign that you are a damaged and broken person who can't accept love and rejects nice people or whatever else it is you might fear is going on - that's a sign that you are human, and thus you're not going to feel that spark with everyone. Again - that's normal!